There is a term: emotionally immature persons. At a very young age they did not have the right environment in which they could develop these emotional skills. And their immaturity often only shows up behind closed doors, in their own families. Some specific personality traits of these people are: very egocentric, self absorbed, little empathy, inability to put right something that went wrong in a contact, lack of self-reflection, superficial, defensive, difficulty changing themselves (in behavior, thoughts, ideas), difficulty seeing reality as it is, low stress tolerance, they “restructure” reality so that they can deal with it more easily (i.e. reject, deny, distort), they have problems with emotional intimacy (closeness, contact, getting to know each other on a deeper level). Children that have an emotionally immature parent(s) have a hard time.