Perhaps many or most marriages fail because most people have no clue what marriage actually is or entails. I tell every couple who comes to me contemplating marriage: The WRONG reason to get married is because you are “in love.” Marriage is NOT about being “in love.” Marriage is the commitment to “love.” Now, let's define what “love” is: an action, sacrifice, decision, and choice, and then see if you are “crazy enough” (committed) to be willing to make that type of sacrifice. The next thing I tell them is: “The single greatest thing you can do to love your spouse is to deal with (heal) your crap. In other words, spend all the time and money necessary with Orion prior to marriage or spend 10X that amount with James afterward.